# Mind Calm Therapies

> Find Your Peace Within


## Posts

- [The Quiet Power of Pen-and-Paper Journalling](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-quiet-power-of-pen-and-paper-journalling): There’s something undeniably grounding about the simple act of putting pen to paper. In a world where much of our thinking gets typed, tapped, or dictated into glowing screens, journalling by hand offers a slower, deeper, more embodied way of connecting with yourself. Handwriting activates areas of the brain linked with emotional processing, memory formation, and meaning-making. When you physically shape each word, your whole body participates in the expression — posture, breath, the movement of your arm, the pace of your thoughts. This creates a feedback loop between mind and body that typing simply can’t replicate. It becomes a […]
- [Autism: Disability, Difference… or Your Secret Superpower?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/autism-disability-difference-or-your-secret-superpower): How autistic minds reshape our ideas about brains, behaviour and what it means to be “normal” Who Are You in This Story? Are you the one who spots patterns no one else sees, hates last-minute plan changes, or secretly thinks small talk should be outlawed? Do bright lights, office gossip and vague instructions make you want to crawl under a table, while a good system or puzzle makes you feel oddly at home? Whether you’re autistic, self-questioning, or just “a bit different”, this article might feel like someone has finally described your brain’s user manual – and possibly explained why […]
- [Whole Brain Living](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/whole-brain-living): The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life – a Book Summary (By Jill Bolte Taylor) Preface – Peace Is Just a Thought Away Taylor opens with the reminder that inner peace is not mysterious or unattainable — it’s a function of brain choice. When we understand our brain’s anatomy and the circuits that shape our emotions, thoughts, and actions, we gain the power to choose peace moment by moment. Part I – A Brief Look Inside Your Brain Chapter 1: My Story and Our Brain Taylor recounts her extraordinary experience as a Harvard-trained neuroanatomist who […]
- [Invisible Bruises](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/invisible-bruises): Understanding Psychological Splitting and Narcissistic Alienation After Divorce When adult children reject their mothers after separation from a narcissistic or controlling father, the wounds are often unseen — but deeply real. When a mother finally leaves a controlling or coercively controlling husband, she may naturally assume that freedom will follow. For some, deepest pain comes later — when adult children withdraw, take sides, or reject her completely. What feels like a personal betrayal is arguably an echo of psychological conditioning: years of manipulation and emotional control that fractured the family from within. Understanding this pattern may help with healing the […]
- [The 90-Second Rule](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-90-second-rule): How a Pause Can Change Everything When emotion takes over, most of us want to act — to fix, escape or explain. But what if all you needed was 90 seconds of stillness to change the trajectory of how you feel? A Stroke, a Scientist, and a Moment of Awareness At the age of 37, Dr Jill Bolte Taylor — a neuroanatomist and researcher — experienced a massive stroke that shut down the left hemisphere of her brain. Remarkably, she witnessed her own brain go offline. As a neuroscientist, she understood at some level what was happening, observing in real […]
- [The ADHD Helpline](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-adhd-helpline): ADHD Helpline — where distraction meets understanding… eventually. (“Please hold… oh look, a squirrel!”) Operator: “Hello, you’ve reached the ADHD Helpline — how can I help you today?” Caller: “Hi, yes — I’m having trouble focusing.” Operator: “Okay, we can definitely help with that. Can I take your name?” Caller: “Erm… hang on. I wrote it down somewhere so I wouldn’t forget. Wait—oh no, that’s my grocery list. Why do I have seven types of cheese on here?” Operator: “Cheese is valid. But let’s focus—oh! Speaking of focus, have you tried one of those apps that plays ambient rain sounds?” […]
- [Why do I feel the way I do?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/why-do-i-feel-the-way-i-do): Why Do I Feel Like This?” — A Compassionate Exploration It’s one of the most common questions people bring into counselling: “Why do I feel like this?” It’s a question that usually carries frustration, fear, or a sense of being lost. And it makes complete sense — when we’re overwhelmed or confused by our own reactions, it’s natural to want a clear explanation, a neat reason, something we can point at and say “Ah, that’s it.” But the truth is gentler, and far more human: feelings rarely have one single cause. The Mind’s Search for Certainty When life feels hard, […]
- [The Let Them Theory – Overview](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-let-them-theory-overview): Below is a book summary of Mel Robbin’s “Let Them” inspired by the original poem “Let Them” by Cassie Phillips (click this link for a copy of the poem) Let Them — Mel Robbins Mel Robbins’ Let Them is a refreshingly simple yet profoundly transformative book built around one small phrase that can change your entire outlook: “Let them.” It’s a mindset shift that reminds you to release control over what others think, feel, and do — and to redirect your attention toward what truly matters: your own peace, energy, and choices. By pairing Let Them with Let Me, Robbins […]
- [Narcissism and Intimacy: Love and Marriage in an Age of Confusion](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/relationships/narcissism-and-intimacy-love-and-marriage-in-an-age-of-confusion): Based on a Book Review By Marion F. Solomon, PhD Overview In this insightful and deeply compassionate book, Marion F. Solomon explores the fragile intersection between narcissism and the human longing for intimacy. She argues that while our culture celebrates independence, self-expression and achievement, these same values can also inhibit our ability to form truly intimate relationships. Many people enter relationships carrying unresolved narcissistic wounds from childhood — feelings of shame, neglect or over-idealisation — which lead to defensive patterns that undermine closeness. Rather than viewing narcissism purely as a disorder, Solomon reframes it as a continuum that affects all […]
- [Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/maslows-hierarchy-of-needs): Understanding What Drives Us Human motivation is often more layered than it seems. In 1943, psychologist Abraham Maslow proposed that our needs follow a natural hierarchy — a pyramid that moves from basic survival to self-fulfilment. His model remains one of the most widely recognised frameworks in psychology and wellbeing today. At its foundation, Maslow’s hierarchy shows that before we can reach our higher potential, our more fundamental needs must first be met. Physiological Needs – The essentials for life: food, water, warmth, rest, and shelter. Without these, higher goals lose their meaning. Safety Needs – Once basic survival is […]
- [Omega 3 - Nature's Prozac](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/omega-3-naturesprozac): This piece of writing is referenced from Lucy de Angeles work entitled Natural Born Healer.  You can find out more about her work from her website below the article.  You can also book a consultation with her, directly from her website.  Readers are invited to do their own independent research. Omega 3 – Nature’s Prozac A widely quoted statistic suggests that 45% of Americans take antidepressants. As the UK often follows US trends, it’s concerning how common this has become — even among those not facing major loss or trauma but simply struggling to cope with modern life. Medication can […]
- [Smashing Depression](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/smashing-depression): Book Summary – Smashing Depression: Escaping the Prison and Finding a Life (by Terence Watts) Introduction Smashing Depression is a practical, compassionate guide for anyone who feels weighed down by depression, hopelessness, or emotional exhaustion. Written by psychotherapist Terence Watts, it offers a clear, structured way to understand how depression works on both conscious and subconscious levels — and, most importantly, how to break free from it. Rather than simply managing symptoms, the book helps readers reframe their relationship with depression, revealing that it is not a fixed illness but a pattern of thinking and feeling that can be understood, […]
- [The Female Brain](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-female-brain): Book Summary: The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine, MD The Female Brain by neuropsychiatrist Dr Louann Brizendine explores the intricate relationship between hormones, brain structure, and behaviour in women throughout their lives — from infancy to old age. Drawing upon neuroscience, psychology, and endocrinology, Brizendine illustrates how biological factors shape women’s thoughts, emotions, communication styles, and relationships. Far from being a book about “differences for difference’s sake,” it offers readers — men and women alike — a roadmap to understanding the female mind through science. Brizendine aims to replace misunderstanding and stereotypes with clarity and compassion. Main Themes and Insights […]
- [The Male Brain](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/relationships/the-male-brain): The Male Brain – Summary By Louann Brizendine, MD OverviewDr Louann Brizendine, a neuropsychiatrist, explores how hormones and brain structure shape male behaviour from before birth through to old age. The book draws on neuroscience and endocrinology to explain how biology influences motivation, emotion, and relationships — while emphasising that biology is not destiny. It’s a scientific yet accessible guide to understanding how men think, feel, and connect. Core Themes and Insights 1. Hormonal foundationsFrom eight weeks in the womb, testosterone and other hormones sculpt male brain circuitry. These early hormonal influences strengthen pathways linked to action, competition, and spatial […]
- [The Power of Now - a book summary](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-power-of-now-a-book-summary): The Power of Now – by Eckart Tolle 1. Awakening to the Present Moment Eckhart Tolle’s message centres on one simple but profound truth: the present moment is all that truly exists. Most people live trapped in thought — constantly replaying the past or imagining the future — and as a result, they miss life as it is happening. The key to inner peace, he teaches, is to bring awareness fully into the present moment, observing thoughts without becoming lost in them. Key idea: The mind can be a useful tool, but it also creates suffering when left unchecked. Awareness […]
- [The Five Love Languages - what are they?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-five-love-languages-what-are-they): A Summary of the book by Gary Chapman 1. What Are Love Languages? Gary Chapman’s central idea is that people express and receive love in different ways — known as love languages. Understanding these languages helps partners feel appreciated, valued, and emotionally connected. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation – verbal expressions of appreciation, praise, and encouragement. Quality Time – giving undivided attention and being fully present together. Acts of Service – showing love through helpful actions or thoughtful support. Receiving Gifts – offering meaningful, tangible symbols of affection. Physical Touch – expressing closeness through hugs, holding hands, […]
- [Getting Past Your Break up - a book review](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/getting-past-your-break-up-a-book-review): Getting Past Your Breakup – Summary 1. The Breakup as a Loss to Be Grieved Susan Elliott treats the end of a significant relationship as a genuine bereavement — a loss that must be consciously acknowledged and mourned. Suppressing or denying emotions such as sadness, anger, or confusion only delays recovery. Healing comes from allowing these emotions to surface, processing them with compassion, and recognising grief as a necessary and healthy response. Key takeaway: Grieving is not weakness — it is how emotional wounds begin to heal. 2. Rules of Disengagement: No Contact and Boundaries A major principle of Elliott’s […]
- [Getting the Love You Want - a book review](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/getting-the-love-you-want-a-book-review): Key Concepts & Learning from Getting the Love You Want 1. Childhood Wounds and the Imago Hendrix argues that we unconsciously choose partners who reflect, in part, the qualities of our primary caregivers (parents) — what he calls our Imago.Because of unmet childhood needs or emotional wounds, we enter relationships hoping our partner will “finish what was started” in our early years. The result: conflicts often trigger old unresolved hurts rather than purely present‐day issues. Key takeaway: To transform your relationship, you must bring awareness to how childhood influences your expectations, reactions, and partner dynamics. 2. The Cycle of Romance, […]
- [Marriage Fitness - a book review](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/marriage-fitness-a-book-review): The Fitness Analogy: Marriages Need Ongoing Care Fertel opens with a metaphor: a marriage is like a muscle or the body — it doesn’t sustain itself; it must be exercised, tended, and kept in shape. Over time, complacency, neglect, stress, or unresolved conflicts cause “weakness” in the relationship. His program is built as a fitness regimen for love. Key takeaway: Marriage is not a “one and done” event — it requires ongoing maintenance and intentional investment. The Four Phases of Marriage Fitness The core of the book is structured around four sequential steps (or phases). Each phase addresses a particular […]
- [Fight Less, Love More](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/fight-less-love-more): Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In by Laurie Puhn Book Summary Laurie Puhn is a lawyer and mediator who specialises in helping couples with communication problems. In Fight Less, Love More, she offers practical, real-life strategies: short conversations, small mindset shifts, and simple verbal tools that can significantly reduce conflict, increase understanding, and rebuild warmth in romantic relationships. The central idea is that many fights derive not from what we think, but how we react, how we speak, and how often we forget small but important habits of kindness and […]
- [The Great Divide](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-great-divide): Why Pro-Vaccine Beliefs Run So Deep In the years since 2020, one of the most striking observations has been how firmly many people continue to hold pro-vaccine views. On the surface, these positions are framed as “trusting science” or “protecting health.” But scratch beneath, and we begin to see a more complex picture—one shaped by government narratives, pharmaceutical funding, medical gatekeeping, and widespread censorship. Mainstream Beliefs and Why They Stick For many, vaccines are synonymous with safety, health, and progress. Generations have been taught that vaccines ended deadly epidemics and saved countless lives. The media repeats this narrative, doctors echo […]
- [Book Summary - The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-summary-the-autistic-survival-guide-to-therapy): 📘 Summary of The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy by Steph Jones The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy by Steph Jones is a vital resource for autistic individuals navigating the therapeutic landscape. Drawing from her personal experiences as a late-diagnosed autistic woman and her professional background as a therapist, Jones offers a candid exploration of the challenges faced in therapy and provides practical guidance for both clients and practitioners. 🧠 Understanding the Neurodivergent Experience Jones begins by addressing common myths and misconceptions about autism, emphasizing the importance of recognising the unique needs of neurodivergent individuals in therapeutic settings. She highlights […]
- [Neurodiversity in Therapy: Embracing Diverse Minds](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/neurodiversity-in-therapy-embracing-diverse-minds): The landscape of mental health care is evolving, recognising that neurodivergent individuals—those with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other neurological variations—have unique needs and strengths. Traditional therapeutic approaches often pathologise these differences, but a growing movement advocates for neurodiversity-affirming practices that honour and support diverse cognitive profiles. Neurodiversity-affirming therapy is a paradigm shift that moves away from deficit-based models and instead views neurodivergent traits as natural variations of human diversity. This approach emphasises collaboration, respect, and individualised support, aiming to empower clients rather than attempting to “normalise” them. Key Books Shaping Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy 1. Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy: What Every Mental Health Provider […]
- [Wired for Love](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/wired-for-love): Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin – a book summary Why the brain matters in love Stan Tatkin’s Wired for Love is a practical guide to understanding how our brains and attachment systems shape the way we love, fight, and stay connected. Drawing on neuroscience and attachment theory, Tatkin shows that many relationship struggles aren’t about “bad behaviour” or “bad partners,” but about the way the human brain is wired to detect threat and seek safety. By learning to recognise these patterns, couples can build a more secure, resilient, and loving partnership. Relationships are a survival system Tatkin emphasises that […]
- [The State of Affairs](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-state-of-affairs): The State of Affairs – Summary & Key Takeaways Esther Perel’s The State of Affairs is not simply a book about infidelity—it is a profound exploration of love, desire, betrayal, and the shifting meaning of commitment in modern relationships. Instead of treating affairs as just a symptom of broken partnerships, Perel reframes them as complex events that can both devastate and awaken individuals and couples. Core Themes Infidelity ReconsideredPerel challenges the traditional view of affairs as clear-cut acts of betrayal. She suggests they can also be windows into unmet needs, unexpressed desires, or unexplored aspects of identity. While painful, affairs […]
- [I Love You but I’m Not in Love with You?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/i-love-you-but-im-not-in-love-with-you): Book Summary: I Love You But I’m Not in Love With You by Andrew G. Marshall Andrew G. Marshall’s I Love You But I’m Not in Love With You explores one of the most painful yet common moments in long-term relationships: when love feels flat, distant, or routine. Marshall explains that this doesn’t mean the relationship is over — it’s a sign that love is evolving and needs care, not abandonment. Drawing on his years as a therapist, he offers a compassionate roadmap to help couples rebuild connection, trust, and passion. Understanding the “Love Drought” The phrase “I love you […]
- [Book Summary: Who Moved My Cheese?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-summary-who-moved-my-cheese): Summary – Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson This book is a motivational parable that explores how people respond to change in work and life. The story is set in a maze, where four characters—two mice, Sniff and Scurry, and two “Little people,” Hem and Haw— search for cheese, which symbolises what we want in life: success, happiness, or security. The narrative illustrates different approaches to change: Anticipate Change: Sniff and Scurry notice the cheese dwindling early and prepare for it. They demonstrate the value of awareness and foresight. Adapt Quickly: When the cheese disappears, Sniff and Scurry immediately […]
- [Book Summary: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-summary-the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fck): Summary: At its core, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* challenges conventional self-help advice, which often emphasizes relentless positivity and chasing success at all costs. Mark Manson argues that life is inherently filled with problems, setbacks, and limitations, and our happiness depends not on eliminating them, but on learning to carefully choose what we care about. In other words, we can’t give a f*ck about everything—so we must prioritize what truly matters. Key Themes and Insights: Limited F*cks to Give:Life is finite, and our attention and energy are limited. Manson encourages readers to focus on the values, people, […]
- [Become Unwritten](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/become-unwritten): In all my time working as a counsellor and psychotherapist, I keep my knowledge updated constantly in order to assist clients, especially those who have repeating patterns of behaviour that appear to have no real benefit except to keep them stuck and almost tied to puppet strings that keep them looping—making decisions that don’t suit them, entering relationships that show repeated patterns of behaviour. After all, we see people how we are rather than how they are. Lee Jacobs’ ground-breaking work helps us to see the current pattern or loop, assisting us to break the “code” completely. It is our […]
- [The Chimp Paradox - a book summary](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-chimp-paradox-a-book-summary): The Chimp Paradox: Understanding and Managing Your Mind The Chimp Paradox by Professor Steve Peters is a practical guide to understanding how the human mind works and how to manage thoughts, emotions, and behaviours effectively. The book presents a model that simplifies the mind into three main components: the Chimp, the Human, and the Computer. By understanding these elements, individuals can gain greater control over their reactions, improve decision-making, and achieve personal and professional success. The ChimpThe Chimp represents the emotional, impulsive, and instinctive part of the brain, often associated with the limbic system. It operates automatically and is driven […]
- [From 2020 onwards and beyond](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/from-2020-onwards-and-beyond): The Great Debate: What Really Happened in 2020? The great debate of recent years has polarised people—sometimes unwittingly, sometimes deliberately. Those who woke up to the whole Plandemic of 2020 often found themselves lone voices, accused of being conspiracy theorists. Over time, however, many began to see the pandemic narrative less as a health crisis and more as an exercise in obedience. Even the official government website downgraded the “disease” on 19th March 2020— days before lockdown—yet this was ignored by mainstream media. Masks were presented as a safeguard, but critics argued they were petri dishes of one’s own bacteria. […]
- [Functional Mushroom Supplements](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/functional-mushrooms): Functional mushrooms – for Brain, Mood, Sleep & Immunity – they can help with focus, memory, mood, sleep, and overall well-being.  Here is a comprehensive list together with their benefits and places to source. 1. Lion’s Mane Benefits: Cognitive support, focus, memory, mood enhancementForms: Capsules, tinctures, powdersTop Picks: Host Defense Lion’s Mane Capsules – £14.81 Organic Nordic Lion’s Mane Double Extract – £14.57 New Leaf Lion’s Mane Powder – £8.97 UK Purchase: Healing from Within 2. Reishi Benefits: Sleep support, stress relief, immune supportForms: Capsules, tinctures, teasTop Picks: Reishi Supplement Polysaccharides 50% – £18.00 Four Sigma Foods Instant Reishi Drink […]
- [Climate Anxiety, Critical Thinking & Hope](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/climate-anxiety): Feeling anxious about climate news?Many people experience stress or worry due to repeated fear-based messaging in mainstream media. Counselling, meditation, grounding exercises, and psychotherapy can help manage these feelings, build resilience, and restore perspective. The Bigger Picture Mainstream narratives often suggest imminent catastrophe, but reality is more complex. Some messaging may be influenced by political or social agendas. Independent research can reveal perspectives often missing from mainstream reporting. Challenging the Narrative There Is No Climate Crisis (David Craig)Earth’s climate has always fluctuated naturally; question alarmist claims. Climate Con (Travis Cook)Political and economic interests often shape messaging; natural factors like solar […]
- [The Enduring Benefits of Breastfeeding: Nurturing Through Nature](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-enduring-benefits-of-breastfeeding-nurturing-through-nature): The Enduring Benefits of Breastfeeding: Nurturing Through Nature Breastfeeding is a profound act of nourishment, not just in terms of nutrition but also in emotional connection and developmental support. Organisations like La Leche League GB and the National Childbirth Trust (NCT) highlight that breast milk is a dynamic, living substance that adapts to meet a baby’s evolving needs, offering unparalleled immune protection and promoting optimal growth and development . Extended Breastfeeding: A Natural Continuum The World Health Organization (WHO) recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months, followed by continued breastfeeding alongside appropriate complementary foods for up to two years […]
- [Rethinking Cholesterol and Heart Disease](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-summary-malcolm-kendrick): Insights from The Great Cholesterol Con by Malcolm Kendrick Dr. Kendrick challenges the mainstream “lipid hypothesis”—the idea that high cholesterol is the primary cause of heart disease. He argues this view is oversimplified and not strongly supported by evidence. Instead, he emphasizes that heart disease arises from a complex interaction of factors including: Inflammation Oxidative stress Endothelial dysfunction Key Takeaways 1. Cholesterol Levels Aren’t the Main Culprit High cholesterol does not automatically cause heart disease. Some individuals with low cholesterol still develop heart problems, while many with high cholesterol remain healthy.(Source: Wikipedia) 2. Diet’s Effect is Limited Reducing saturated fat […]
- [Healthy Water, Healthy You](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/healthy-water-healthy-you): Healthy Water, Healthy You: Fluoride Facts and Filtration Solutions Many of us turn on the tap without thinking twice—but have you ever wondered what’s really in your water? Fluoride is commonly added to UK water to help prevent tooth decay, yet there are health, ethical, and legal considerations worth knowing. Understanding these facts and exploring safe filtration options can help you make informed choices for yourself and your family. Key Health Considerations Even small amounts of fluoride can accumulate over time. Some potential concerns include: Brain Development: Studies suggest high fluoride exposure may be linked to lower IQ in children. […]
- [“My baby is fine!” vs “Vaccines are dangerous!”](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/my-baby-is-fine-vs-vaccines-are-dangerous): “My Baby is Fine!” vs “Vaccines are Dangerous!” Why the Debate Misses a Key Genetic Factor: MTHFR When it comes to vaccines, the debate often feels polarised: one side insists vaccines are completely safe, while the other warns of dangers. But this discussion may overlook a crucial piece of the puzzle: genetics, specifically the MTHFR gene. What is MTHFR? The MTHFR (methylenetetrahydrofolate reductase) gene produces an enzyme vital for processing folate (vitamin B9) and supporting detoxification. Mutations such as C677T or A1298C can reduce the body’s ability to: Regulate homocysteine levels Detoxify environmental toxins and heavy metals Properly process certain […]
- [Lies, Legal Battles and Hope for Healing](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-fight-for-truth-and-healing): What really happened during COVID? In this conversation, Doc Malik and attorney Tom Renz explore the hidden costs of lockdowns, vaccines, and government policies. While pharmaceutical companies profited under legal protection, ordinary people faced serious consequences — from health injuries to social and emotional struggles. The Illusion of Safety Renz highlights that claims the jab was “safe and effective” were misleading. Reports link vaccination to blood clots, strokes, sudden deaths, myocarditis, cancers, miscarriages, and repeat infections. Yet vaccine makers remain legally protected under the PREP Act. Fear and Control Fear was deliberately amplified. Inflated case numbers and constant media coverage […]
- [Book Review: The Nice Girl Syndrome](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-review-the-nice-girl-syndrome): Book Summary: The Nice Girl Syndrome by Beverly Engel Beverly Engel’s The Nice Girl Syndrome is a practical and empowering guide for women who feel trapped by the need to please others, avoid conflict, and prioritize everyone else’s needs above their own. Engel, a psychotherapist and acclaimed author, exposes how the cultural and personal conditioning of being “nice” often leads women into unhealthy relationships, burnout, and loss of self-respect. Rather than encouraging rudeness or coldness, she teaches readers to balance kindness with strength, self-worth, and assertiveness. At the heart of the book is the concept that many women internalize a […]
- [Book Review: Dissolving Illusions by Dr S Humphries et al](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-review-dissolving-illusions-by-dr-s-humphries-et-al): Book Review: Dissolving Illusions: Disease, Vaccines, and the Forgotten History by Dr. Suzanne Humphries and Roman Bystrianyk Dissolving Illusions challenges the conventional narrative that vaccines and antibiotics were the primary drivers behind the decline of infectious diseases in the 19th and early 20th centuries. Authors Dr. Suzanne Humphries, a nephrologist, and Roman Bystrianyk, a researcher, delve into historical data to argue that improvements in sanitation, nutrition, and living conditions played a more significant role in reducing mortality rates than medical interventions. Historical Context and Decline of Infectious Diseases The book begins by examining the historical context of infectious diseases, highlighting […]
- [Book Review: The Plant Paradox](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/book-review-the-plant-paradox): The Plant Paradox: Why Some “Healthy” Foods May Be Making You Sick Dr. Steven Gundry’s The Plant Paradox challenges conventional wisdom about what constitutes a healthy diet by revealing a hidden culprit behind many chronic health issues: lectins. Lectins are a type of protein found in many plants that, according to Gundry, can trigger inflammation, digestive problems, and even autoimmune diseases. What Are Lectins? Lectins are natural plant defense molecules. They protect plants from pests and predators by binding to carbohydrates on the cells of animals and humans. While many lectins are harmless, some can be highly reactive and interfere […]
- [Basic Relationship Tips](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/basic-relationship-tips): Basic Relationship Tips for Managing Misunderstandings and Miscommunication Pause Before Reacting: Take a breath before responding when upset—this helps avoid saying things you’ll later regret. Listen to Understand, Not to Win: Really hear what your partner is trying to say, even if you don’t agree. Use “I” Statements: Express your feelings without blame—e.g., “I felt overlooked when plans changed,” instead of “You never think about me.” Clarify What You Heard: Reflect back what your partner said to check for understanding: “Are you saying that…?” Address One Issue at a Time: Bringing up several problems at once usually overwhelms and derails […]
- [The Straw Wife](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/the-straw-wife): A short story about love, forgiveness and loss Once in a quiet village by the sea, lived a woman named Liora and her husband Tomas. They were known as a devoted couple, but their love was no easy affair. Tomas was a proud man, and Liora, equally spirited. Their disagreements were not frequent, but when they came, they were fierce — not cruel, but heavy with unspoken pain. Liora, who had learned from her grandmother the art of weaving straw, began a curious ritual early in their marriage. Each time she and Tomas argued, she would retreat to her workshop […]
- [Can you catch a cold?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/can-you-catch-a-cold): There are many things that can impact our physical and mental health.  It is also suggested that our thoughts also impact our attitudes to stress and health.  So let’s look at the common cold and what the NHS has to say...
- [First Aid for Anxiety](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/first-aid-for-anxiety): Anxiety – a quick first aid guide The first thing to do is to be aware of what is happening in your body and just STOP.  Breathe deeply, ask them to stay with you.  Download my “Emotion Release” recording – this link will take you to paypal to purchase (it lasts 5 minutes and costs £5).  (I give it out freely to clients so if you would like to book a session please click the button above).  It takes you through a brief relaxation and then invites you to count to 90 and in that short time the feeling or […]
- [When did you last check in with yourself?](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/when-did-you-last-check-in-with-yourself): When did you last check in with yourself? How are you feeling on a scale of 1 – 10 today? We go about our daily business, sometimes so busy on getting ourselves ready for the next task on our list we are perhaps on autopilot.  A rant here and there, a diary entry and then thoughts of the next meal.  Do we have the right ingredients in the fridge / pantry / cupboard, are all the dishes clean?  Is there a recipe available, or is it a simple meal tonight?  Are those close to you showing gratitude and vice versa? […]
- [Tips for the New Year](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/tips-for-the-new-year): Tips for the New Year New Year often comes with a desire to make those changes, start afresh, have a clean slate. Often people make New Year’s resolutions but without any clear plan to follow through and by February, those resolutions have morphed back into our psyches and we revert to our “old selves”. Disappointed perhaps that we didn’t “try harder”. Counter intuitively perhaps, if this happens to you, why not take a moment and just breathe; don’t justify why you were unable to follow through nor berate yourself.  It really is OK. OR…. set yourself a clear target.  Use […]
- [Sleep and Stress Relief](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/sleep-and-stress-relief): Sleep and Stress Relief There are times when our day has been so overwhelming our mind is racing, fast. Should we have done x, y, z, what is tomorrow going to be like, what have we forgotten, who is thinking what about us… and we can feel like our mind is like a washing machine on a fast spin cycle. Stop. Take a breath. Breathe in through the nose for a count of 3 and breathe out for a count of 5. Do this about three times. Did you know that Frankincense is a great stress reliever? You can purchase a […]
- [Your Gut and Mental Health](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/your-gut-and-mental-health): Your gut and mental health The link between gut health and your emotional health is strong. If you have a healthy gut you are less likely to experience symptoms of depression and other mental and also physical issues. I take these products myself and find them extremely effective. Click here to purchase with a 20% discount!     The post Your Gut and Mental Health first appeared on ~ Mind Calm Therapies in Malmesbury ~.
- [Ceremonial Cacao – World Healing Meditation](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/ceremonial-cacao-world-healing-meditation): A brief explanation:– a cacao ceremony is a process of opening the heart and helps to boost the mood.  Ceremonial cacao is seen as a plant medicine which is consumed in order to elevate spiritual practises and intentions for the world, for ourselves and all those whom we love.
- [20 Points to Help Get the Most out of Therapy](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/20-points-to-help-get-the-most-out-of-therapy): It is always a privilege to work with people in a very sensitive and thought provoking process.  Practice self care (whatever works for you – walk in nature, art, sports, being with good friends whom you can confide in, spiritual practices that work for you – being kind to yourself).  This is even more important when in therapy as things can be uncovered that might trigger you.  If this happens, please be as transparent as possible with your therapist.  The therapist is there to serve YOU.
- [Losing a pet](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/losing-a-pet): Losing a pet For all who have ever owned a pet and had to say goodbye to them.   Here’s a poem that I wrote as I contemplated: There is a room, next door, where people and living creatures goWhen their time in this room is pastThey know not when, nor do IWhen that auspicious time will be their last I wait in this zone, this uncertain roomWaiting in case I am needed, for that time may comeWhen things that we cannot know yet, become knownMeanwhile I feel I’m barely living but waiting I am needed, you see – not […]
- [20 Points to Help Get the Most out of Therapy](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/__trashed)
- [Emergency Contacts](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/emergency-contacts): Emergency Contacts If you are in crisis NOW, click the links below to take you to the relevant sites. Samaritans tel:116 123 / email jo@samaritans.org (24 hour response time)Mind tel: 01225 706532: Wiltshire Mind runs the following services: five peer support group centres (drop-in) at Chippenham, Devizes, Malmesbury,Trowbridge and Melksham and a professional counselling service based at their Head Office location in Melksham.  Website or email office@wiltshiremind.co.ukSplitz (Domestic Abuse services)Gingerbread (for single parent family support)Wiltshire; Social Services – Adult CareDoorway Chippenham (Homeless Charity & Drop In Centre) Local Counselling AgenciesOlive Branch Counselling tel: 01249 443810  / 07395 397517 / counselling@olivebranchcounselling.org.ukCotswold Counselling tel: 01285 885 830 / email: admin@cotswold-counselling.org.ukRelate tel: 0300 003 1781 […]
- [Anxiety](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/anxiety): Feeling Anxious or Overwhelmed? Anxiety and panic can feel like your mind’s stuck on a fast spin cycle—your heart races, adrenaline kicks in, and it feels like you’re losing control. Whether it’s a big event like an exam or performance, or it comes out of the blue, anxiety can be overwhelming when you don’t know how to manage it. We’re actually hardwired to feel anxious—it keeps us alert and responsive. A little stress can even boost performance. But when anxiety becomes constant or stops you from functioning, it’s time to seek support. Social anxiety, for example, can make it difficult […]
- [Psychobiotics for Anxiety](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/blog/psychobiotics-for-anxiety): Psychobiotics for anxiety For the original source, click here The author of this article used to walk around ruminating, struggling with inner turmoil and nervousness all the time which never went away.  An unnecessarily high state of worry and arousal when there is nothing threatening you? It doesn’t have to be that way though. The Gut-Brain connection is well known within the field of general well-being and so I also recommend Microbz as a company that manufactures and sells probiotics. If you have chronic anxiety, there are ways to manage and reverse it; psychobiotics are one way to do that.  Psychobiotics […]

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- [About Kate](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/about-kate): About Me I’ve always been fascinated by what helps people heal — not just in the mind, but through every layer of their being. Over time, I’ve come to believe that genuine healing happens when we create the conditions for calm, clarity, and self-connection. My work is about helping people rediscover those conditions — within themselves, their relationships, and the rhythm of their everyday lives. I am an integrative therapist, author, and founder of Mind Calm Therapies, based in the UK. My approach is warm, professional, and deeply human. I combine person-centred therapy, psychodynamic insight, CBT, EFT, and mindfulness-based awareness […]
- [Cookie Policy](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/cookie-policy): 1. Introduction This Cookie Policy explains how Mind Calm Therapies (“we”, “us”, or “our”) uses cookies and similar technologies on our website www.mindcalmtherapies.co.uk. We use cookies to improve your browsing experience, understand how our website is used, and provide personalised content and recommendations. By continuing to use our site, you consent to the use of cookies in accordance with this policy — unless you choose to disable them through your browser settings or our cookie banner. 2. What Are Cookies? Cookies are small text files placed on your computer or device when you visit a website. They help websites recognise […]
- [Privacy Policy](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/privacy-policy): 1. Introduction Welcome to Mind Calm Therapies.Your privacy is very important to us. This policy explains how we collect, use, store and protect your personal information when you visit our website, make an enquiry, subscribe to updates, or become a client. We comply fully with the UK General Data Protection Regulation (UK GDPR) and the Data Protection Act 2018. 2. Who We Are Mind Calm Therapies is a UK-based counselling, hypnotherapy and wellbeing practice operated by Katharine James.We offer therapy, wellbeing resources, online content, and links to trusted affiliate partners. Mind Calm Therapies is the data controller for the personal […]
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- [More about Kate](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/more-about-kate): Born in Switzerland in the late 1950s, Kate has spent her life exploring people, relationships, and the human mind. Fluent in French from the age of 10 and having lived across Switzerland, France and the UK, she has always been deeply curious about why people do what they do—though naturally cautious around strangers as a youngster. A challenging marriage inspired Kate to pursue psychology and counselling. Her diverse educational path includes a bilingual secretarial diploma, HR qualifications, CPCAB Level 5 counselling, hypnotherapy, and intervention techniques such as BWRT, EFT, and Mind Calm Meditation. She complements this training with extensive reading. […]
- [Issues I work with](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/issues-i-work-with): Anxiety – Finding Calm in the Storm of Anxiety Anxiety can feel like a constant whirlwind—thoughts racing, heart pounding, and a sense of being out of control. It’s a natural human response to life’s pressures, whether it’s exams, work deadlines, or simply navigating daily interactions. But when anxiety becomes overwhelming, it can leave us feeling trapped, disconnected, or ready to retreat. I work with people who want to take back control from anxiety and feel more at ease in themselves. Together, we explore not only the emotional and mental patterns behind anxiety but also the physical side—like the important gut-brain […]
- [Main Issues I work with](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/main-issues-i-work-with): Anxiety & Stress Anxiety and stress can often feel like a relentless inner whirlwind, leaving us feeling out of control. These emotions are natural responses to life’s challenges, from exams and public speaking to everyday interactions. Social anxiety can be especially tough to manage, as it can leave us struggling to find the right words or trigger anxiety seemingly without cause. This fight-or-flight response is deeply ingrained in our biology and, in moderation, keeps us alert. However, when anxiety takes over, it can hinder our daily functioning, prompting us to withdraw for safety. I specialise in helping individuals regain control […]
- [Qualifications](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/qualifications): Professional Qualifications2006: BSc (Hons) Psychology (Open)2013: Diploma in Hypnotherapy/NLP – Anglo European College of Therapeutic Hypnosis2012: PC-L5 Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Foundation Degree in Counselling) (CPCAB)2009: TC-L4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling (CPCAB)2007: Certificate in Counselling Studies (CPCAB)2006: Certificate in Counselling Skills2005: Introductory Certificate in Counselling Skills CPD 2025: Understanding Autism (Level 2) Wiltshire College2024: Mind Calm Master – with Sandy Newbigging2011: D240 “Fear and Sadness” (Open University)2011: SDK228 “Science of the Mind” (Open University)2010: Reiki I and II (Shelley Harrop)2009: “Beating Depression Fast” (Human Givens)2009: “Brief Psychotherapeutic Strategies” (Human Givens)2016: Warriors, Settlers & Nomads – Personality Hardwiring – Essex Institute see here […]
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- [About me](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/about-me): My journey into therapy began after the birth of my daughter, when I sought support to navigate the transition into family life. That experience—of feeling truly heard—inspired me to help others feel the same. With a background in psychology from the Open University (2000), I’ve continued learning and expanding my skills in Counselling, Psychotherapy, NLP, Hypnotherapy, EFT, and BWRT. I bring a down-to-earth, compassionate approach, drawing on a wide range of tools to support your personal growth and healing. I’m also a certified Mind Calm Master Coach, trained by Sandy Newbigging, and use methods like Mind Calm, Body Calm, and […]
- [Sessions and Fees](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/sessions-and-fees): Sessions and Fees Sessions: 50-60 minutes – £70 per session.  Sessions: 90 minutes – £80 Block book 5 sessions – £300. Concessions – please ask. Some concessions are available. Please contact me for more information. Cancellation Policy If, for any reason, you are unable to attend an appointment, please give two working days’ notice to avoid being charged in full for the session. Please be aware that this does not include weekends so if you need to cancel an appointment for Monday, please let me know by Thursday.
- [Legal Stuff](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/legal-stuff): The Legal Stuff For successful therapy there is a requirement an essential framework to be in place. This is to protect both client and coach / therapist and is in keeping with all successful business policies. A business contract A therapeutic contract The Business Contract Meeting on a weekly basis for an agreed number of sessions or meeting on an open-ended basis with an agreed ending session at least one week in advance. If arrangements have been made to meet on an open-ended weekly basis, a minimum of 48 hours’ working notice (excluding weekends) is required to cancel, or alternative arrangements […]
- [Contact me](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/contact): Thank you for considering Mind Calm Therapies as your partner on your journey to well-being and personal growth. Your willingness to reach out is the first step towards positive change, and I appreciate your trust in me. I want to assure you that your message is important, and I am committed to providing you with the support and guidance you seek. Rest assured that I will personally respond to your query within 24 hours. To get in touch, please use the contact form provided. Feel free to share your thoughts, concerns, or any questions you may have. Your communication will […]
- [Find Your Peace Within](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/): Please note I am currently closed to new clients and will re-open in January 2026 with a reduced caseload. THANK YOU FOR READING – do please look around at my blogs as there is much of interest here!   Feeling overwhelmed by anxiety, stress, or relationship struggles?You’re not alone – and you don’t have to navigate it on your own. Taking that first step to seek support is a powerful act of self-care, and I’m here to guide you toward the calm, clarity, and balance you’re looking for. I’m Kate – a qualified therapist offering a compassionate, personalised approach to […]
- [Working with me](https://mindcalmtherapies.co.uk/working-with-me): Initial Consultation Process Begin your journey towards healing with a free, 20-minute consultation on Zoom or by phone. Share your reasons for seeking counselling, and let’s explore if we’re a good fit. If we’re aligned, we’ll schedule your first session, either online or in person. Counselling and Psychotherapy When you work with me, you enter a safe, confidential space to explore your feelings and life’s challenges. Together, we’ll uncover new insights and build greater self-awareness, helping you move from where you are now to where you want to be—step by step, at your pace. My approach is integrative and tailored […]


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